Should a student be better than his/her teacher? Or a son better than his father? I think is it fair to say that most us want a better life for our children, regardless of how rich or poor we are. But if this is so evident, why are our children today worse than they were years ago? Children are killing each other and teen pregnancy is growing.
What are we teaching our children, that is causing such havoc in the world today? Is the recession, causing people to work double and triple jobs, taking away family bonding time in the household? Which can result in the streets or television raising our children. Someone told me that, it’s not how much money you earn; the measure of a man is primarily determined how his family is raised. We get caught up in the hype of fancy cars and big houses that is constantly thrown in our faces through the media. “The American Dream.” On television, is seems so easy to get but the reality is, the celebrities we see worked a great deal to get where they are. But everyone’s American Dream varies. Some just want to have a healthy life style or just be able to have children, or have a complete family (husband, wife, two kids and a dog/cat).
Some of us worry about making so much money, that we are blinded by the immediate needs of our children; which is our love and attention. Shouldn’t we be involved in our children’s life, from homework to the type of person they are attracted to? Shouldn’t we pay more attention to the type of books they read rather than the type of Playstation to buy?
I am not telling anyone how to live their life of how to raise their children, but some of us may not need that second job or overtime this week. Maybe the amount commitment that we give our jobs (in fear of losing it), we should devote that same energy in making sure our children are guided in the right direction.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Settling Down
Are there any cons when people settle? For instance, if you have the proper education and the right tools to be a Network Engineer (someone who design computer networks), and you cannot find employment; should you take a data entry position if offered? Or perhaps an individual is very selective in the mate he/she chooses; should this person settle for the next available person, if the search is difficult?
If we look into everyone’s situation, there are probably many pros and cons to why a person made a particular choice. However, settling may result in failure in for long-term. Accepting someone’s flaws in the beginning may seem harmless, but after a while those flaws maybe quite an annoyance.
These are my opinions; however, they may be different results depending on the person and their experience. I am curious to hear for you. What do you think about settling?
If we look into everyone’s situation, there are probably many pros and cons to why a person made a particular choice. However, settling may result in failure in for long-term. Accepting someone’s flaws in the beginning may seem harmless, but after a while those flaws maybe quite an annoyance.
These are my opinions; however, they may be different results depending on the person and their experience. I am curious to hear for you. What do you think about settling?
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
The Working Woman
Since the birth of this country, women has been dealing with discrimination through the eyes of many men, whether it be a stranger or relative, co-worker or friend, females has had a difficult time for centuries. Coping with this inequality, women constantly have managed to find themselves barring to strive for excellence.
Susan B. Anthony, Florence Nightingale, and Harriet Tubman (just to name a few) endured an enormous amount of discrimination and violence, but yet managed to lead many women in their journey for equality. Today, in most schools, there are more women enrolled in universities than men as well as the percentage of employment.
What is happening to the working male role model that children look up to? Is the media supporting dual working families or single parents who need to work?
As this society has matured, in terms of the female workforce, the working male has seen enormous decreases in employment. This same number appeared in the early 40s, perhaps because of the war, but what happening in today’s society?
Some will argue that many minorities face heavy loads of racism and discrimination; but observe the actions of women since the framing of this country. Can we use these brutal actions among minorities as an excuse for the unemployment, incarceration, child neglect, etc? What can we do as minorities in this young but big country to better ourselves as well as others around us?
Susan B. Anthony, Florence Nightingale, and Harriet Tubman (just to name a few) endured an enormous amount of discrimination and violence, but yet managed to lead many women in their journey for equality. Today, in most schools, there are more women enrolled in universities than men as well as the percentage of employment.
What is happening to the working male role model that children look up to? Is the media supporting dual working families or single parents who need to work?
As this society has matured, in terms of the female workforce, the working male has seen enormous decreases in employment. This same number appeared in the early 40s, perhaps because of the war, but what happening in today’s society?
Some will argue that many minorities face heavy loads of racism and discrimination; but observe the actions of women since the framing of this country. Can we use these brutal actions among minorities as an excuse for the unemployment, incarceration, child neglect, etc? What can we do as minorities in this young but big country to better ourselves as well as others around us?
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
School Challenges
I think it is safe to assume that most university/college, students tend to become less engaged during the warmer months of the year. If this is so evident, how can we eliminate all the obstacles that seem to obstruct our path toward success? If the purpose of going to school to advance in one’s career, the primary objective, then why are some individuals slacking in class or comfortable with mediocrity? Are students being force to attend school by a spouse, job, or parent? It is hard to cure an epidemic that hasn’t been fully diagnosed; however, the focused should be geared toward becoming successful.
The level of success may vary from person to person due to upbringing, so I will be frank. As a professor here, I have seen many things and my primary objective is make individuals better going out than they were coming in. The first few weeks of any new assignment will be great until one become comfortable and the real individual will start to dwell. Missing work, absence becomes great, and failing test usually is the result. I guess the only question I have for everyone: How can we ignore the obstacles that tend to misguide up from our goal? Obstacles, such as jobs (not careers), crazy girlfriends/boyfriends (women have problems men has issues), warm weather and drama, just to name a few? What can be the focus and how can we commit to that goal?
The level of success may vary from person to person due to upbringing, so I will be frank. As a professor here, I have seen many things and my primary objective is make individuals better going out than they were coming in. The first few weeks of any new assignment will be great until one become comfortable and the real individual will start to dwell. Missing work, absence becomes great, and failing test usually is the result. I guess the only question I have for everyone: How can we ignore the obstacles that tend to misguide up from our goal? Obstacles, such as jobs (not careers), crazy girlfriends/boyfriends (women have problems men has issues), warm weather and drama, just to name a few? What can be the focus and how can we commit to that goal?
Monday, March 21, 2011
Parenting the Parent
Teen pregnancy is an ongoing problem in America as well as other parts of the world. Others may not find this epidemic problematic as it burdens the lives of young people and the parents/grandparents that care for them. It’s no secret, the youth, today are out of control. High/middle schools are witnessing record-breaking drop-outs of students across the country. The behavior is overwhelming and the lack of respect for adults is absurd. What happened last generation that is driving our society into an environment of “I don’t cares?”
Should this blame be placed upon young parents, grandparents raising misbehaved children, absentee parents (mother or father or both), or artificial stimulants (drugs)? An answer to this difficult question may not exist within a single thought; however, we can extrapolate a few factors to remedy this notion.
Television is completely uncensored. There are plenty of TV shows, commercials, Movies and Games that exploit women sexually for all eyes to see. Our children see this sexuality and may become curious or may lose respect for the gender all together or the nationality that is being exploited. Music come in all forms, but calling a woman the B word and allowing for its use national television and radio speaks volumes of inappropriateness.
There are many parent who are afraid of losing their child, as a result some children are being reward without achievement. Students who do poorly in school should have their luxuries revolt, right? There have been witnesses to children receiving expensive shoes, video games, clothes and jewelry even that particular student is failing. We have to stop being friends to our children and become their parent.
In conclusion to this blog, which most of you may disagree, I believe adults who wish to have a child should be required by federal law to obtain a license and become certified in that state to have children. The certification should be outlined where couples must be married and above twenty two years of age and have at least a high school diploma (this would solve a lot of problems). Although this certification is not difficult to acquire, it is also easy to violate as well. The plenty should be a hefty fine (1500) and the parents of the violators must pay an additional fine.
Should this blame be placed upon young parents, grandparents raising misbehaved children, absentee parents (mother or father or both), or artificial stimulants (drugs)? An answer to this difficult question may not exist within a single thought; however, we can extrapolate a few factors to remedy this notion.
Television is completely uncensored. There are plenty of TV shows, commercials, Movies and Games that exploit women sexually for all eyes to see. Our children see this sexuality and may become curious or may lose respect for the gender all together or the nationality that is being exploited. Music come in all forms, but calling a woman the B word and allowing for its use national television and radio speaks volumes of inappropriateness.
There are many parent who are afraid of losing their child, as a result some children are being reward without achievement. Students who do poorly in school should have their luxuries revolt, right? There have been witnesses to children receiving expensive shoes, video games, clothes and jewelry even that particular student is failing. We have to stop being friends to our children and become their parent.
In conclusion to this blog, which most of you may disagree, I believe adults who wish to have a child should be required by federal law to obtain a license and become certified in that state to have children. The certification should be outlined where couples must be married and above twenty two years of age and have at least a high school diploma (this would solve a lot of problems). Although this certification is not difficult to acquire, it is also easy to violate as well. The plenty should be a hefty fine (1500) and the parents of the violators must pay an additional fine.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Puppy Love
WHAT EXACTLY IS PUPPY LOVE AND WHO DECIDES THE TYPE OF LOVE ONE IS INVOLVED IN? I’M QUITE SURE WE HAVE ALL EXPERIENCED OUR PARENTS OR GUARDIANS DEFINING THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WE’RE IN WHILE ATTENDING HIGH SCHOOL OR MIDDLE SCHOOL. “OH THAT’S JUST PUPPY LOVE.” BUT WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? IT IS A WAY TO DESCRIBE A JUVENILE RELATIONSHIP THAT IS DEEMED TO END MISERABLY OR IS IT A PLOY TO TRAIN YOUNG MINDS THAT LOVE HAS AN AGE REQUIREMENT?
LET US REMINISCE ABOUT OUR CHILDHOOD RELATIONSHIPS, WHERE ONE’S SALARY DIDN’T MATTER OR THE NUMBER OF DATES WASN’T A PRIORITY. SEX WAS ALWAYS ON A YOUNG MALE ADOLESCENCE’S MIND, BUT IT WASN’T PRIMARY. IT DIDN’T MATTER HOW MUCH SHE/HE SPENT ON CLOTHES OR NAILS OR HOW MUCH MONEY THEY HAD. IT WAS UNDERSTOOD THAT NO ONE REALLY HAD A JOB AND IT WASN’T AN ISSUE IF YOU LIVED WITH YOUR PARENTS OR GUARDIANS. OUR ONLY INTEREST WAS IN EACH OTHER. SPENDING COUNTLESS HOURS ON THE PHONE TO SEE THEM THE NEXT DAY AND MISS THEM ALL OVER AGAIN WHEN WE PART. ASKING OUR PARENTS FOR A DOLLAR EVERYDAY, TO SAVE UP FOR THE UPCOMING HOLIDAY, JUST TO SEE THAT SMILE ON THEIR FACE. WE DIDN’T FLATTER EACH OTHER OR GIVE GIFTS TO EXPECT SEX OR MONEY IN RETURN, IT WAS SIMPLY PURE INFATUATION OR LUST OR PERHAPS, TRUE LOVE.
OUR PARENTS MAY CALL THIS BEHAVIOR PUPPY LOVE, BUT HOW CAN THAT BE WHEN NO ONE WANTED ANYTHING FROM THE OTHER PERSON, OTHER THAN THEIR TIME, OR JUST TO HEAR THEIR VOICE. THAT’S THE TRUE LOVE THAT NEEDS TO EXIST IN OUR ADULT LIVES. OUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT RESEMBLE AN OUNCE OF OUR CHILDHOOD RELATIONSHIPS. MOST OF THE TIME IT’S ABOUT MONEY OR FASHION OR FAME; WE GET INVOLVE WITH PEOPLE NOW FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS AND TRY TO MAKE IT INTO SOMETHING ITS NOT. I, NOT ONLY WANT TO RELIVE MY CHILDHOOD, BUT HAVE THAT CHILDHOOD RELATIONSHIP IN MY ADULT STATE.
ARE YOU OUT THERE?
LET US REMINISCE ABOUT OUR CHILDHOOD RELATIONSHIPS, WHERE ONE’S SALARY DIDN’T MATTER OR THE NUMBER OF DATES WASN’T A PRIORITY. SEX WAS ALWAYS ON A YOUNG MALE ADOLESCENCE’S MIND, BUT IT WASN’T PRIMARY. IT DIDN’T MATTER HOW MUCH SHE/HE SPENT ON CLOTHES OR NAILS OR HOW MUCH MONEY THEY HAD. IT WAS UNDERSTOOD THAT NO ONE REALLY HAD A JOB AND IT WASN’T AN ISSUE IF YOU LIVED WITH YOUR PARENTS OR GUARDIANS. OUR ONLY INTEREST WAS IN EACH OTHER. SPENDING COUNTLESS HOURS ON THE PHONE TO SEE THEM THE NEXT DAY AND MISS THEM ALL OVER AGAIN WHEN WE PART. ASKING OUR PARENTS FOR A DOLLAR EVERYDAY, TO SAVE UP FOR THE UPCOMING HOLIDAY, JUST TO SEE THAT SMILE ON THEIR FACE. WE DIDN’T FLATTER EACH OTHER OR GIVE GIFTS TO EXPECT SEX OR MONEY IN RETURN, IT WAS SIMPLY PURE INFATUATION OR LUST OR PERHAPS, TRUE LOVE.
OUR PARENTS MAY CALL THIS BEHAVIOR PUPPY LOVE, BUT HOW CAN THAT BE WHEN NO ONE WANTED ANYTHING FROM THE OTHER PERSON, OTHER THAN THEIR TIME, OR JUST TO HEAR THEIR VOICE. THAT’S THE TRUE LOVE THAT NEEDS TO EXIST IN OUR ADULT LIVES. OUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT RESEMBLE AN OUNCE OF OUR CHILDHOOD RELATIONSHIPS. MOST OF THE TIME IT’S ABOUT MONEY OR FASHION OR FAME; WE GET INVOLVE WITH PEOPLE NOW FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS AND TRY TO MAKE IT INTO SOMETHING ITS NOT. I, NOT ONLY WANT TO RELIVE MY CHILDHOOD, BUT HAVE THAT CHILDHOOD RELATIONSHIP IN MY ADULT STATE.
ARE YOU OUT THERE?
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Creating the right relationship
Why are so many of us addicted to change? “Out with the old and in with the new,” sort of speak. Some of us would not trade that new car smell in for a long healthy relationship. In fact, people who are keen to dating new people in short intervals may not even be aware of their constant behavior. The blame could be directed toward something minute or perhaps the other person’s inaccuracies. Either way, this constant routine is an involuntary action and the only way to escape is through one’s own psyche.
A person who meets someone for the first time is excited about learning new things and going out to different places. The thrill of starting something new and the “wanting” to talk for hours becomes an addiction. The moment that feeling dissipates or becomes redundant, the other person appears boring and useless. Excuses, such as, “you don’t do the same things you did in the beginning,” or perhaps, “I don’t feel like being involved in a relationship,” is put on the individual and he/she may feel compelled to change his/her behavior to remain attractive. But chances are, they’re not so boring and if you didn’t want a relationship, why let it get this far? We may blame others for our stagnant routine but the brutal truth of the matter is we’re the only ones who have changed. We have consumed every bit of information that has fostered for the last four or five months and the possibilities of the two individuals becoming a couple has exhausted.
The only solution to this matter, I suggest is creating the right relationship that can blossom throughout its existence. Why can’t the “new car smell” exist during the life of our relationships? What are we doing that is causing the lack of interest in our mate? We all know the old saying “it takes two,” which cannot be ignored in this matter. Instead of trying to purchase a new car, we should work with the one we have and develop it. The question then becomes, what can I do, to create the right relationship?
Relationships should get better with time. The two of you have learned so much about each other that the attraction has grown to a level that no one could interrupt. However, interruptions can occur by outside influences, such as single friends with great stories, someone more attractive, glamour, weight gain or loss, or anything that confuses “feeling” with reality. The misconception of “I don’t “feel” like being in a relationship,” or “I don’t “feel” the same way as I did in the beginning,” will misguide us from true happiness. We all may “feel” like not going to work or school in the morning or “feel” like not paying the rent, but the reality is; life moves on, whether we’re enjoying it or not and we must not let our feelings get in the way of what is real.
Creating the right relationship is very simple. Be yourself. One cannot emulate another person because it worked for the other. Being your self is the best tool for success; it allows the other person to see who you really are without being deceitful. Being attracted to one’s natural behavior is the key ingredient. Most of us waste too much time trying to be something we’re not. If you have to spend more money than usual to impress someone, you’re not being yourself. If you’re trying to be everything that person wants in a relationship, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
If you have to ask, “what can I do to keep the spark going?” or how can I get my relationship back to the way it was?” Your relationship was perhaps created by pretense with the hopes of an actual connection occurring. After three months or perhaps a year or two the real person may appear and the attraction fades. The relationship is lost and you may question, “How did our relationship ever get to this point?” This can be avoided, simply by being you.
The only sure way longevity can exists within a relationship is being attracted to one’s imperfections. If we all understood that everyone is not perfect and may not do everything perfect, we can come to understanding that, one’s flaws can become perfection. It is what makes people uniquely different from each other. We must learn to accept and sacrifice because people are not manufactured. We all grow and learn from each other’s experiences and with time relationships should grow on a mutual standpoint. Let us abandon the insecurities of our weight, hair, height or anything that we believe is making us less attractive, and focus our energy on building the relationship. It is perfectly understood that we must look good for our partner, but our insecurities should not dictate the integrity of who we really are.
Appearance may change with time and beauty may fade but one’s natural behaviors will always remain the same. I’m not suggesting you look for someone less attractive to create longevity. The advice I offer is that we should not have a higher tolerance for someone because of his or her beauty. The inner beauty should be as attractive as the outer and if you’re not attracted or intrigued by one’s natural behaviors, the relationship will eventually fade. Our grandparents lasted this long because of the connection they share. How could anyone not want to be with one person to bear witness to his or her entire life? There will always be someone more attractive with less/more weight (depending on one’s preference) but are we going to take the risk of losing what we actually created?
A person who meets someone for the first time is excited about learning new things and going out to different places. The thrill of starting something new and the “wanting” to talk for hours becomes an addiction. The moment that feeling dissipates or becomes redundant, the other person appears boring and useless. Excuses, such as, “you don’t do the same things you did in the beginning,” or perhaps, “I don’t feel like being involved in a relationship,” is put on the individual and he/she may feel compelled to change his/her behavior to remain attractive. But chances are, they’re not so boring and if you didn’t want a relationship, why let it get this far? We may blame others for our stagnant routine but the brutal truth of the matter is we’re the only ones who have changed. We have consumed every bit of information that has fostered for the last four or five months and the possibilities of the two individuals becoming a couple has exhausted.
The only solution to this matter, I suggest is creating the right relationship that can blossom throughout its existence. Why can’t the “new car smell” exist during the life of our relationships? What are we doing that is causing the lack of interest in our mate? We all know the old saying “it takes two,” which cannot be ignored in this matter. Instead of trying to purchase a new car, we should work with the one we have and develop it. The question then becomes, what can I do, to create the right relationship?
Relationships should get better with time. The two of you have learned so much about each other that the attraction has grown to a level that no one could interrupt. However, interruptions can occur by outside influences, such as single friends with great stories, someone more attractive, glamour, weight gain or loss, or anything that confuses “feeling” with reality. The misconception of “I don’t “feel” like being in a relationship,” or “I don’t “feel” the same way as I did in the beginning,” will misguide us from true happiness. We all may “feel” like not going to work or school in the morning or “feel” like not paying the rent, but the reality is; life moves on, whether we’re enjoying it or not and we must not let our feelings get in the way of what is real.
Creating the right relationship is very simple. Be yourself. One cannot emulate another person because it worked for the other. Being your self is the best tool for success; it allows the other person to see who you really are without being deceitful. Being attracted to one’s natural behavior is the key ingredient. Most of us waste too much time trying to be something we’re not. If you have to spend more money than usual to impress someone, you’re not being yourself. If you’re trying to be everything that person wants in a relationship, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
If you have to ask, “what can I do to keep the spark going?” or how can I get my relationship back to the way it was?” Your relationship was perhaps created by pretense with the hopes of an actual connection occurring. After three months or perhaps a year or two the real person may appear and the attraction fades. The relationship is lost and you may question, “How did our relationship ever get to this point?” This can be avoided, simply by being you.
The only sure way longevity can exists within a relationship is being attracted to one’s imperfections. If we all understood that everyone is not perfect and may not do everything perfect, we can come to understanding that, one’s flaws can become perfection. It is what makes people uniquely different from each other. We must learn to accept and sacrifice because people are not manufactured. We all grow and learn from each other’s experiences and with time relationships should grow on a mutual standpoint. Let us abandon the insecurities of our weight, hair, height or anything that we believe is making us less attractive, and focus our energy on building the relationship. It is perfectly understood that we must look good for our partner, but our insecurities should not dictate the integrity of who we really are.
Appearance may change with time and beauty may fade but one’s natural behaviors will always remain the same. I’m not suggesting you look for someone less attractive to create longevity. The advice I offer is that we should not have a higher tolerance for someone because of his or her beauty. The inner beauty should be as attractive as the outer and if you’re not attracted or intrigued by one’s natural behaviors, the relationship will eventually fade. Our grandparents lasted this long because of the connection they share. How could anyone not want to be with one person to bear witness to his or her entire life? There will always be someone more attractive with less/more weight (depending on one’s preference) but are we going to take the risk of losing what we actually created?
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